Please Come To My Pity Party


You are cordially invited to attend a celebration of misery.

Guest of Honor: Me

Time: Whenever I feel like it

Place: Anywhere I happen to be when the self-pity hits me

Come and help me wade and wallow in the wastewater of worldly woe!

There will be no entertainment because I am to be the center of attention.

Whine will be served. 

How would you like to receive an invitation like this in the mail? Would you want to attend? Probably not, yet people extend such invitations all of the time! We all love to moan and groan every now and then and it makes it a lot more gratifying to have an audience. When we are wading and wallowing in our woe, the last thing we want is for someone to tell us to cheer up because every cloud has a silver lining. Personally, when I’m contributing to Global Whining, I don’t want any stupid silver lining…I want sympathy and I want it now!!

Part of the fun of being human and imperfect is that it’s acceptable to feel lousy sometimes. The trick is to feel it, wallow in it for a little while and then move on without spoiling everyone else’s day…or week…or month….or life.

Friends will usually sympathize and comfort you for a while, but after the appropriate pity party period of time has come and gone…so will your friends. That’s healthy because a true friend will stick by you when you really need it, but will also give you a clear message that it’s time to put on your grown-up pants and deal with life, when you’ve stretched the Whine Festival long enough.

We all know people that cause us to run in the other direction when we see them coming toward us. We do this because that person is always going to have a problem and life will never be treating them fairly. They also feel the need to share this with everyone in their path.  Remember that you do not want to be one of these carriers of bad tidings! You want people to be glad to see you, not hide in closets as you walk down the hall. Nobody will fault you for having a genuine problem and feeling blue, and most will be glad and even honored to give you emotional support in your time of need. But to constantly be a beast of burdens and to always be bemoaning your fate is to cause others to doubt when you are really and truly in need of help.

Life is a roller coaster and we have to stay on it through the dips as well as the highs. When you stop to think about it, that’s OK because without the dips, a roller coaster would be pretty boring and you’d probably want your money back. So try to hang on and celebrate the dips because it makes the highs that much better. And the next time you think about throwing a pity party for yourself, try to remember that it’s hard to get people to attend and they usually don’t bring gifts.


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